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This webpage was developed to support discussions about options for where we can/may/should live as we age.  These discussions, often with presentations, occurred via Zoom in January through June of 2021. This page is now being maintained as a resource for members of The Community Church of Chapel Hill and their friends and family.


Please note: The links given below are for information only
​and do not represent endorsements.
2021 Schedule for Discussion Topics
​

January 13th: Aline (Rae) Dawson gave us an overview of different types of Continuing Care Retirement Communities (CCRCs) in the Triangle area.  Her presentation and some of her data slides are available at the following links.
  • CCRC Basics Slides (Selected slides)
  • ​CCRC Basics (Recorded presentation)​
 
January 27th: Gayle Streifford spoke about 55+ communities and provided us with her written notes.
  • Descriptions of 55+ communities
  • Pros of living in a 55+ community
  • Cons of living in a 55+ community
  • Services
  • Azalea Estates
  • Overture​

​February 10th: Maria Tadd, author of Happiness is Growing Old at Home, which she wrote after helping her mother live out her life at home, will talk about what she has learned since she published the book in 2009 and her own plans for aging in place.
  • ​Maria's Presentation

February 24th: Susan Blanchard will talk about other types of retirement communities.
  • ​Susan's Presentation
 
March 10th: Nancy Mayer will talk about Medicaid and VA Benefits.
  • ​Nancy's presentation
 
March 24th: Mandy Summerson is a Life Care Manager/Gerontologist.  She will talk about the services offered by her organization, Nurse Care Carolina (now Arosa NC Triangle), for about 15 minutes and then will answer our questions.  Mandy is “Eden at Home” certified.  Eden at Home is a training that focuses on applying the power of the Ten Principles of the Eden Alternative to improving quality of life for Elder(s) and their care partners living at home.  Mandy helped one member of our group find appropriate facilities for her husband when he was ill with Alzheimer’s.
  • ​Mandy's presentation

April  14th: Jennifer Albright will talk about family care homes, i.e. assisted living in a residential setting. Family Care Homes, often confused with the term, Group Homes, are state licensed residential homes with 2-6 beds. Like their cousin, the larger 7+ bed assisted living facilities, family care homes offer a very different option for their residents. Our discussion will include why, when, which, cost, as well as the pros and cons for selecting a family care home for a loved one or yourself. The presenter is the former owner and administrator of a family care home in Durham and has been working in the elder care world for over 10 years.  
  • Jennifer's presentation

April 28th: Lisa Gwyther, a social worker with the Duke Dementia Family Support Group, will present a talk entitled, "Alzheimer's and Other Dementias: What's Hard and What Helps?," which will look at these diseases from the partner's /caregiver's perspective. There will be time for questions after her talk.
  • Lisa's presentation

May 12th: Lisa Cadigan and Shannon Horne from UNC Hospice will talk about hospice services.

May 26th: Elizabeth Hirsh from The Downsizers will speak to us. She will provide practical tips on how to get started on downsizing as well as talk about what NOT to get rid of when downsizing. She will also tell us about the services that her company offers in the Triangle area and answer our questions.​
  • Elizabeth's presentation
  • Top 10 - How to Get Started and What to Keep
  • Downsize Decades into Days

June 9th: Several members of The Triangle Traditional Music and Dance Retirement Society (2T), a 501c3 organization, will talk about their journey in creating a unique, creative, affordable, and inclusive community in the Triangle area. 2T is an affinity group of musicians, dancers, artists, and others who are interested in the arts. They are committed to living gently with the earth, aging and cherishing life together to the "last waltz." They are actively seeking a location for this community and working with other creative thinkers and doers to move the project to fruition. They will send materials for your review before the meeting, present a summary of their progress to date, make time for Q&A, and provide an opportunity to become a 2T Founder.  Presenters will include Mareah Steketee and other Board members.
  • Agenda
  • Learning Circle
  • Household Model The correct URL for the Triangle Traditional Music and Dance Retirement Society is here.
  • How to get more involved and resources
  • Slide presentation​
  • ​Recording of the presentation

June 23rd: This will be the last meeting of this group.   Participants will have a chance to talk briefly about what they have learned and how the decisions they have made/are making might have changed/are changing as the result of our discussions.
  • Recording of the Final Meeting
Resource Links
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55+ Communities
  • Carolina Arbors (Durham)
  • Carolina Preserve at Amberly (Cary)
  • Chapelwood (Chapel Hill)
  • Communities in Cary
  • Communities in Chapel Hill
  • ​Communities in Durham
  • Communities in Pittsboro
  • Communities in Raleigh
  • ​Corbinton (Hillsborough)
  • Creekside at Bethpage (Durham)
  • Encore in Briar Chapel (Chapel Hill)
  • Fearrington Village (Pittsboro) - not age restricted
  • Fendol Farms Durham)
  • Overture Centennial (Raleigh) - Apartments
  • Overture Chapel Hill (Chapel Hill) - Apartments
  • Overture Crabtree (Raleigh) - Apartments
  • The Courtyards at Homestead Rd (Chapel Hill)
  • The Courtyards at O'Kelly Chapel (Cary)
  • The Courtyards at Southpoint (Durham)
  • The Villas at Culp Arbor (Chapel Hill)

Aging in Place
  • 6 Hidden Costs of Aging in Place (Retirementliving.com)
  • Hidden Costs of Aging (video)
  • ​The Hidden Costs of Aging (workbook)
  • ​The Hidden Costs of Aging (website)
  • The Hidden Costs of Aging in Place (Presbyterian homes)
  • The Sacrifices of Caregiving by Carol Bradley Bursack
  • U.S. Wages Lost to Unpaid Family Care to Hit $147 Billion by 2050 by Lisa Rapaport

​Aging Life Care
  • Aging Life Care Association
  • See "Concierge and Care Management Services" below.​

Alzheimer's and Dementia
  • 6 Ways that Memory & Thinking Change with Normal Aging (& What to Do About This) Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH (article includes many useful links)
  • 10 Early Signs and Symptoms of Alzheimer's
  • Alzheimer's Association
  • Lumbee Tribe Elder Services
  • Orange County Department on Aging
  • Still Alice by Lisa Genova
  • ​Still Alice (2014 movie) is available on Amazon Prime Video
  • ​The Charles House Association - Charles House was named after The Community Church's first minister, Charlie Jones. The history of how it was started to provide daytime care for elders can be found here.
  • ​UNC's Partnership in Aging Program
  • What can you do if you are worried about "incompetence"?  Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH (article includes many useful links)
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Books
  • Age in Place: A Guide to Modifying, Organizing and Decluttering Mom and Dad's Home by Lynda Shrager (2018)
  • Don't Toss My Memories in the Trash by Vickie Dellaquila​
  • ​Downsizing the Family Home: What to Save, What to Let Go by Marni Jameson
  • Finish Strong: Putting Your Priorities First at Life's End by Barbara Coombs Lee
  • Happiness is Growing Old at Home by Maria Todd (2009, annotated edition)
  • How to Age in Place - Planning for a Happy, Independent, and Financially Secure Retirement by Mary A. Languirand, PhD and Robert F. Borstein, PhD (2013)
  • I'm Dead - Now What?: End of life planner, Make life easier for those you leave behind by TH. Guides Press (2020)​​
  • Rightsizing Your Life by Ciji Ware​
  • Simplify Enough: Create Space for What Matters by Sora Garrett
  • The Sentimental Person's Guide to Decluttering by Claire Middleton
  • Thoreau's Downsizing Planner for Seniors by Philip Baker
  • What's the Deal with Retirement Communities by Brad Breeding, CFP (2017)​
  • Who Will Take Care of Me When I'm Old by Joy Loverde (2017)
  • ​With a Little Help from Our Friends - Creating Community as We Grow Older by Beth Baker (2014)

Concierge and Care Management Services
  • Another Daughter (Raleigh)
  • ​Arosa Care (Triangle) - Founded as Nurse Care of Carolina in 2000. Offers integrated care management.
  • Cary Senior Concierge Services (Cary)
  • ​Compassionate Concierge for Seniors LLC (Hillsborough, Durham, Chapel Hill)
  • What is an Aging Life Care Manager?

Continuing Care Retirement Communities (CCRCs) 
  • CCRC Basics Slides ​- Aline Dawson
  • CCRC Basics (Recorded presentation)- Aline Dawson's presentation on January 13, 2021
  • North Carolina Department of Insurance Information on Continuing Care Retirement Centers
    • Carol Woods (Chapel Hill)
    • Carolina Meadows (Chapel Hill, Chatham County)
    • Croasdaile Village (Durham)
    • Galloway Ridge (Pittsboro, Fearrington Village)
    • Glenaire (Cary)
    • Searstone (Cary)
    • Springmoor (Raleigh)
    • The Cardinal (Raleigh)
    • The Cedars (Chapel Hill)
    • The Cypress of Raleigh (Raleigh)
    • The Forest at Duke (Durham)
    • Twin Lakes (Burlington)
    • The Templeton of Cary (Cary)
​​​

​County Resources for Seniors
  • Chatham County
  • Durham County
  • Orange County
  • Wake County​​

Downsizing and Moving
  • Don't Toss My Memories in the Trash by Vickie Dellaquila
  • ​Downsizing the Family Home: What to Save, What to Let Go by Marni Jameson
  • ​Make It Home - Senior Move Managers (Raleigh)
  • National Association of Senior and Specialty Move Managers
  • Rightsizing Your Life by Ciji Ware
  • Simplify Enough: Create Space for What Matters by Sora Garrett
  • The Downsizers (Triangle Region, located in Chapel Hill)
  • The Sentimental Person's Guide to Decluttering by Claire Middleton
  • Thoreau's Downsizing Planner for Seniors by Philip Baker

​Elder Abuse
  • Adult Protective Services - NCDHHS
  • Elder Abuse: What Is It and How Do We Recognize It?
  • Preventing Elder Abuse (CDC)

​Elder Orphans
  • Arosa Care (Triangle) - Founded as Nurse Care of Carolina in 2000. Offers public/private guardianship and HCPOA.
  • Elder Orphans - Aging Alone: Facebook support group
  • 'Elder Orphans' Have a Harder Time Aging in Place
  • Members Trust
  • ​The Rise of Elder Orphans - What You Should Know
  • The Corporation of  Guardianship

​Fall Prevention
  • 8 Things to Have the Doctor Check after an Aging Person Falls by Leslie Kernisan MD MPH
  • ​The Art of Falling Safely
  • Top Five Reasons Seniors May Have to Leave Home

Family Care Homes
  • Many family care homes do not have websites. What is a family care home?  More information can be found here.
  • All About Seniors NC - Can help with selection of the right place for a senior to live.
  • August Estates (Durham, Chapel Hill)
  • Heart to Live Family Care Home (Cary)
  • Prestige Family Care Homes (Durham)
  • Ramsgate Family Care Home (Durham)
  • ​Search for a facility by city or county here and check their star rating with the state of North Carolina​


Hospice
  • What are Palliative Care and Hospice Care?
​
​How Covid-19 Will Changing Aging and Retirement
(WSJ article)

​

Independent Living Communities
  • Abbotswood at Stonehenge (Raleigh)
  • Atria Southpoint Walk (Durham)
  • Azalea Estates (Chapel Hill)
  • Bartlett Reserve (Durham)​
  • Capital Oaks Retirement Resort (Raleigh)
  • ​Durham Regent - a Holiday Retirement Community (Durham)
  • Emerald Pond - a Holiday Retirement Community (Durham)
  • Jordan Oaks - a Holiday Retirement Community (Cary)
  • Overature Cary (Cary)
  • Overture Centennial (Raleigh) 
  • Overature Chapel Hill (Chapel Hill)
  • Overture Crabtree (Raleigh) 
  • ​Preston Pointe (Cary)
  • The Gardens at Wakefield - a Holiday Retirement Community (Raleigh)
  • Woodland Terrace (Cary)

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In-Home Care Services
  • A Helping Hand (Orange, Durham, and Chatham counties)
  • Comfort Keepers (Durham)
  • ​Compassionate Concierge for Seniors LLC (Hillsborough, Durham, Chapel Hill)
  • Home Care Assistance (Chapel Hill and Durham)
  • Home Helpers Home Care (Raleigh and Cary)
  • Homewatch CareGivers (Chapel Hill and Durham)
  • Right at Home (Durham and Chapel Hill)
  • Senior Helpers (Triangle area)
  • ​Visiting Angels (Chapel Hill and Durham)

​Long-Term Care Insurance
  • Caryn Utberg - independent LTC insurance broker who can help you compare plans
  • Cost of Care: Trends and Insights
  • What is Long Term Care?

TED Talks and Other Presentations
  • The Psychology of Your Future Self by Dan Gilbert (2014)

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  • Charlotte Village Network
  • Falconbridge Friends
  • Fearrington Cares
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