This year, We are discussing
​My Grandfather's blessings
by rachel naomi remen, m.d.

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We are older, wiser, and rare!

A discussion group for older (everyone's older than someone!), mostly retired women interested in exploring the gifts, myths, and challenges of growing older.

See below for information about joining a particular group for a specific meeting.  Please attend no more than one group meeting per week so that everyone will have more time for connecting. 

The words for lighting and extinguishing our chalice(s) can be found in a pdf file here.

We will resume in-person meetings at The Community Church of Chapel Hill when it is safe to do so for all members of a group. Until then, all groups are meeting via Zoom.
Contact us here to request the link for a particular group.

See the table of Discussion Topics, meeting dates, and times that is below and here to find out what each of the three groups is doing on a particular date. 
​We will be discussing questions based on My Grandfather's Blessing.
​The questions can be found here.
During some meetings, we will be using questions from the Ungame, which can be found here.

All Rare Women are welcome to join. Contact us here if you need the Zoom link.
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Group A (Joann Haggerty, facilitator): 1st and 3rd Mondays, 2-4 pm

Group B (Bonnie Gilliom, facilitator): every Thursday, 10 am - 11:30 am

Group C (Susan Blanchard, facilitator): 1st and 3rd Thursdays, 1:30-3:30 pm

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I Am Not Old

I am not old…she said
I am rare.
I am the standing ovation
At the end of the play.
I am the retrospective
Of my life as art
I am the hours
Connected like dots
Into good sense
I am the fullness
Of existing.
You think I am waiting to die…
But I am waiting to be found
I am a treasure.
I am a map.
And these wrinkles are
Imprints of my journey
Ask me anything.
- Samantha Reynold

meeting attendance

You can attend any one of the three dates listed for each topic, but please attend only one meeting per topic.   Meeting reminders will be sent via email (fill out the form below to be added) from rarewomen@c3huu.org and will also appear in the Weekly Announcements and Newsletter.

Please scroll down to read our Meeting Guidelines since they are very important!

Meetings begin/end with reading chalice lighting/extinguishing words together.  These can be found in a pdf file here.

discussion topics

A pdf version of the 2022-2023 Discussion Topics can be found here.

Meeting guidelines

Before the meeting starts, attendees are encouraged to put on their name tags.
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We will start on time with the lighting of the chalice and will extinguish the chalice 15 minutes before the conclusion of the session so that individuals have a chance to connect.

Each meeting will begin with a 1-minute per person introduction and check-in time.

What is said in our meetings stays in each meeting unless the speaker gives permission to share.

Everybody has a chance to talk once before anyone talks a second time, but no one is required to speak.

Everyone will listen attentively and respectfully  to each speaker without engaging in cross talk with others.

We will pause for a breath or two after each person finishes so that there is time to assimilate what they said before the next person speaks.
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We will use "I" statements to share personal experiences and avoid the temptation to offer advice, lecture, or preach.  We are not here to "fix" anyone.

The group is intended to be helpful in building friendships and being supportive, but it is NOT therapy.

The facilitator is responsible for monitoring the pace to make sure that each person has a chance to share her thoughts on the topic within the time period allotted for the meeting.

You can also send email directly to us at rarewomen@c3huu.org or by clicking HERE.

TED talks that might be of interest:
The Secret to Living Longer Might be Your Social Life by Susan Pinker
What Makes A Good Life - Lessons from the Longest Study on Happiness by Robert Waldinger
​How to Live to 100+ by Dan Buettner